I have realized this one thing in life that leads to the mess in relationships we see today, men are hit with a weakness of irresponsibility and woman with insecurity. I then remembered something, this thing started in the Garden of Eden, let’s go through it:
(Genesis 3:6 and 12 (NIV)
6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.
12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”)
Eve was insecure that she ended up eating the fruit, and when they were questioned by God, Adam was quick to blame Eve. Did the snake hit Eve with a magic of being insecure and make her eat the fruit in that atmosphere? No. Did Eve force the fruit down Adam’s throat? No. So if you can sit like me and observe, you will find that most of the things that cause the negatives in a relationship are usually men’s irresponsibility and women’s insecurity. Yes there is even emphasis, a man is told to love his wife and woman to obey her husband, (“Ephesians 5:22-28 (NIV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”). These two verses are still emphasizing the same thing.
We are having examples of men cheating on their wives yet some say they love the woman they are with, they are just playing or pushing time with the others, doesn’t that sound irresponsible to you?
When a woman cheats she wants to bring revenge and/or prove a point that she will not be messed with, isn’t that insecurity?
There are many more examples like men abandoning their children who they made knowingly; buying a stupid car and making the whole family live in a garage, praising other woman and nothing to your woman, etc.
Women are so insecure with their position
(“proverbs 31v 10-31, (NKJV)10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life…”) they are using the words fifty/fifty to compete with men, some do surgeries to themselves in the name of I want to look beautiful, they post naked pictures of themselves in social media in the name of I am sexy, they claim they need a man in order to be completed etc, and last time I checked a woman completes a man. To show that a woman is that precious, after she was created, creation by God’s hands stopped and the seed of men through a woman was used to bring forth more Adams and Eves. So as these two parties we are going around fighting the wrong things, whereas the problem is in the Garden of Eden. Jesus did come to restore us back but some of us we are still left in the Garden of Eden during the fall. It is so sad but at the end of the day we need to keep this in mind,
(“Ephesians 6:12 (NIV) For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”). Maybe I got it wrong; I mean who am I to give advice to couples while I am single kid. As I said I was just observing because I believe God will not bless marriage just for it to be horrible like this, He blessed it to be beautiful but a man’s irresponsibility and a woman’s insecurity gets in the way or maybe not.
From me to you
Stay loving, stay loved. Stay blessing, stay blessed.